Mzdadoc Posted May 27, 2015 Report Share Posted May 27, 2015 My wife and I have been married almost 2 years. We both have children from our pasts. Am I wrong to think that her X shouldn't ask her to pick him up some milk while we're at the store? Isn't this wrong for him to ask and wrong of her to say yes? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Coop Posted May 27, 2015 Report Share Posted May 27, 2015 Say WHAT? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tpt life Posted May 27, 2015 Report Share Posted May 27, 2015 I would not like it. I think my litmus test would be how many other people she would do this for and/or if her kids are benefiting from her providing this care. If your wife would pick up milk for any old body, no sweat. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Coop Posted May 27, 2015 Report Share Posted May 27, 2015 I like Off Topic best. You don't get questions like this on just any woodworking forum! 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post ..Kev Posted May 27, 2015 Popular Post Report Share Posted May 27, 2015 Depends on the entire situation.. In the end, if it bothers you then it shouldn't happen. I think we should start a column.. Instead of "Dear Abby" we can call it "Dear Wenge".. 4 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
FtrPilot Posted May 27, 2015 Report Share Posted May 27, 2015 I agree with Kev...there are some situations, like X has a broken foot, and can't drive. However, if X is too lazy to get off the couch and is taking advantage of your wife's good nature, then by all means, you have every right to be upset. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mzdadoc Posted May 27, 2015 Author Report Share Posted May 27, 2015 I wouldn't mind if she did things for neighbors and friends I just believe X's shouldn't do personal stuff like that. Sadly falls on deaf ears. Thank you Dear Wenge for reading!!!! Lol Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Boatworks Today Posted May 27, 2015 Report Share Posted May 27, 2015 I have some pretty salty opinions about this, but with age comes wisdom... So, I'm going to keep my mouth shut ;-). 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
davewyo Posted May 27, 2015 Report Share Posted May 27, 2015 No...You are not wrong. I'm at about 1.5 years, and I'm finding that we can both be "right" at the same time. Given some time you may find that her "transgression" on this one isn't exactly how you viewed it. Or not. Could go either way. Doesn't really matter though. Over the years she's gonna do so many things that twist you up one way or another. Pick your battles wisely. I suggest that she may feel strongly when it comes to the kids...just like you feel. What's a little spilled milk?...Har, Har Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Freddie Posted May 27, 2015 Report Share Posted May 27, 2015 I got a dear pine letter when i was in basic training.... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
wtnhighlander Posted May 27, 2015 Report Share Posted May 27, 2015 Dunno 'bout you, but some might worry he was getting the milk for free.... 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Raefco Posted May 27, 2015 Report Share Posted May 27, 2015 This is a very hard one for many, I have said many times there is absolutely no way I would ever marry if my wife and I devorced, the reason being is my parents devorced before I started school, my mother was ultimately married 3 more times and my dad 2 I ended up living with my grandmother all the way through Highschool. I would not even be able to list all my step sibilings and cousins if I wanted to. Your kids and hers will have a much better time of all this if everyone can have reasonable interaction even if you, on certain occasions, must go above and beyond to help a dead beat out, just some insite from a guy that has been there and done that, take it with a grain of salt because that's all it worth if you can't make peace with it but her kids will always come first and he is their dad. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ColinF Posted May 27, 2015 Report Share Posted May 27, 2015 Dear annoyed with the milk I obviously don't know the whole story but I don't know that it would bother me unless he was asking her to make a special stop just for him. My ex used to ask me to stop and get her cigarettes all the time when I picked my daughter up, then I'd get there and the money just left?! That never happened again, but that's the way that chick is, she's a user, among many other things. So I'd say not to sweat it unless it's turning into an every other weekend thing. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Eric. Posted May 27, 2015 Report Share Posted May 27, 2015 I'd be inclined to deliver the milk myself...after letting it cook in the sun for a few hours. Here ya go, chief. Enjoy your milk. Yeah it's a bit weird. Whether or not you should feel threatened is up to your confidence in yourself and your marriage. But I agree with Mark...a cordial relationship between the ex's is important for the kids. My dad and step-dad had a very tumultuous "relationship" and it made for some bad times when I was a kid. If your kids are all grown then I'd feel no obligation to share my wife with this loser. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Janello Posted May 27, 2015 Report Share Posted May 27, 2015 No you're not wrong. Cordial relashionship or not...go get your own milk ya lazy bum. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chet Posted May 30, 2015 Report Share Posted May 30, 2015 I'd be inclined to deliver the milk myself...after letting it cook in the sun for a few hours. Here ya go, chief. Enjoy your milk. Yeah it's a bit weird. Whether or not you should feel threatened is up to your confidence in yourself and your marriage. But I agree with Mark...a cordial relationship between the ex's is important for the kids. My dad and step-dad had a very tumultuous "relationship" and it made for some bad times when I was a kid. If your kids are all grown then I'd feel no obligation to share my wife with this loser. I was reading through this and all along I was wondering when Eric and his avatar would show up 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sjeff70 Posted May 31, 2015 Report Share Posted May 31, 2015 I don't have kids or wife but if this guy has a custody visit coming and you're going to deliver the kid and bought milk during the drop-off it seems okay. It's probably good for the kid that the divorced parents still respect each other. Kids are extremely perceptive and most can feel energy better than adults. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
shaneymack Posted May 31, 2015 Report Share Posted May 31, 2015 I would deliver a jersey cow in his backyard with a bale of hay and a bucket. Problem solved. Wont be asking for milk for a good while. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ColinF Posted May 31, 2015 Report Share Posted May 31, 2015 I would deliver a jersey cow in his backyard with a bale of hay and a bucket. Problem solved. Wont be asking for milk for a good while. my wife would love you forever 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Raefco Posted May 31, 2015 Report Share Posted May 31, 2015 I would deliver a jersey cow in his backyard with a bale of hay and a bucket. Problem solved. Wont be asking for milk for a good while. Then he would just want you to "come and milk your cow", and as long as your comming, "bring a pooper scooper". Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Barry Gilbert Posted May 31, 2015 Report Share Posted May 31, 2015 Dunno 'bout you, but some might worry he was getting the milk for free.... I'm sorry...that's funny right there! People are going to do what you allow them to get away with. If it means that much to you then you need to sit down and talk to her about it. Don't hold it in...it will only burn you up inside. Just my 2 cents. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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